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Thursday, September 17, 2015

New Life: new joy


My daughter and son-in-law adopted a newborn baby girl this week. I am happy and thankful for this since they could not have children of their own. They will be terrific parents.

My feelings for the birthmother are more complex. I see the mom, after enduring hours and hours of labor, holding her daughter in her arms knowing that she cannot give her the upbringing she deserves. She will soon say goodbye to her daughter and hope that she will receive the love and nurturing from the adoptive couple she has chosen. How heartbreaking for her! Yet I love her for giving my daughter the chance to be a mother and guide this tiny person through life. May your coming days be filled with happiness and may you become a loving parent when you are ready and able to do so.
 

Monday, July 13, 2015

I'm Back - Just like Berkeley Breathed!

Going through the bookmarks and found this old boy. Waiting for grandson to be born. Mommy to the doc tomorrow. Will she need to be induced? What will be his name? Will he have hair? Will he look like his big sister?

Mama Mourning Dove returned to her new box nest in the Leyland Cyprus today. Felt very bad for her two little fledglings on the ground. Gave them the new shoebox home lined with tissues and gingerly placed them back in the tree. Prayed to St. Francis, the buddhas, and bodhisattvas that Mama would return to care for them. They made it through the night and today I saw Mama's head protruding from her new nest. Yes! Thank you, kind and compassionate spirits! Please see them safely through the days ahead and let them live long, happy lives.

Sunday, May 20, 2012

The Meaning of Life

Buddhism provides the answer: to be happy and make others (all sentient beings) happy. How great is that? Now that you have direction, hop to it folks!

Tuesday, December 20, 2011

Home for the holidays

As the old song proclaims, "There's no place like home for the holidays." Home feels right. It's like slipping on a well-worn old pair of slippers. It's warm and comforting. It's where I belong because it's where I started. The relatives and friends may be gone. The houses, buildings, and stores from long ago may be only a memory. But I cherish those memories. They provide me a sense of belonging. We all need to go home for the holidays.

Sunday, July 10, 2011

For whom are great books written?

On lists of great novels, Malcolm Lowry's "Under the Volcano" often appears. I just spent a month struggling through its contents. The main character, the Consul, is an alcoholic and Lowry invites the reader into his muddled mind by jumping from setting to setting and moving back and forth in time. It is unsettling and very difficult to follow. Arcane words are sprinkled throughout the story, and there are numerous allusions to ancient myths and characters from obscure works of poetry and prose. Nice if you're a Ph.D candidate who thrills to the quest of deciphering every literary reference, but pretty boring if you're a person on the hunt for a good read.

The story has interesting parts when something actually happens and there is clear dialogue between the characters, but the Consul soon takes another swig and bounces back and forth in time and setting again. The introduction, which is lengthy and tells the complete story before the reader begins the actual text, says that Lowry liked to compare himself to James Joyce. I should have been warned off this novel by that statement.

My feelings toward this work are similar to those I had for "Moby Dick." A few nice scenes with unusual characters and then the reader is stunned by the hammer blow of details about the various species of whales and the intricacies of nineteenth century whaling technology. Were the original audiences for these novels old sailors and temperance advocates? Give me the simple sentences and clarity of expression of Ernest Hemingway even though I hate hunting, fishing, and bullfighting.  

Saturday, June 4, 2011

Whether Weather Matters

It's too humid today. It was too hot and humid yesterday. It was just about right a few days ago. The weather varies too much from the ideal and is a constant source of irritation. Oh, if only it would be 75° and sunny every day! Baloney! I spent five years in southern California. I delighted in the constancy of the weather my first year in residence. I recall standing under a palm tree in January, gazing through the fronds at the clear blue sky and feeling that I was in paradise. As time passed in blissfully balmy conditions I grew less and less pleased with my heavenly home. The trees didn't change colors in fall. Winter rains that greened the hills stopped in spring, turning the countryside into the Golden State, which upon closer inspection was more brown than gold. Natural vegetation was scrubby and dry in summer. I yearned for the lush green landscapes of the Midwest. Large flakes of fluffy snow fell gently in Harvard Yard in a scene from the movie, "Love Story." I had to drive up to Mt. Wilson if I wanted to make a snowball. Variety truly is the spice of life. I don't complain much about the weather anymore.

Monday, April 11, 2011

Death is not the American Way

To grow old is to decay. Looks decline, muscles weaken, illness is more frequent. Sounds bad, so we must fight the process. Work out, eat healthier than before, build a positive outlook. Sounds good, but it might be avoidance of the inevitable. Why not accept the process of aging? Why fear death when it occurs to every living thing? Of course exercise, a balanced diet, and looking on the bright side are all good practices to acquire. But eventually something's going to interfere with that lifestyle, so why not be ready for it? Accept the fact that death will one day happen and the rest of your life will be less stressful and perhaps more meaningful.